We all experience overwhelm at some point. It can be felt as a feeling of confusion, feeling of stress, knowing that you need to take an action but are not sure on which action to take.
You might be trying to solve a problem and find solution. Regardless of the situation overwhelm can make you feel tense and stressed and not be clear on what you need to do in order to resolve your problem or challenge.
If we were to define overwhelm in one way it may be too many choices too much information and not being clear on the actions we need to take to solve that problem.
How does this show up in our everyday life?
It gets in the way of getting things done which can lead to procrastination and perfectionism behaviors. When we don’t know what to do, it is easy for us to ignore the problem and the feelings we feel, than to come up with a solution. Most of the time we don’t know what solution is, which makes thing even worse.
When we procrastinate we are avoiding a stressful situation that makes us feel uncomfortable.
When we seek perfectionism we are self sabotaging because what we do produce, by that I mean our actions. They are never quite good enough in our own minds, so therefore the Perfection we seek is unattainable because we can never make anything perfect. Trying to make things perfect all the time is an easy way to avoid dealing with overwhelm.
Simply put we can avoid dealing with the bigger issues by avoiding them using procrastination and perfectionism.
This then leads to poor results. Not taking action, or taking action in the wrong areas, that do not move us closer to the desired results. For you it might be more energy maintaining a healthy weight or figuring out how to achieve the results that you desire whatever they may be. However if we procrastinate or try to get it perfect before we take action, we often get poor results.
Examples of overwhelm might be
Deadlines. Having to produce a certain something in a set period of time without the knowledge or expert ease to deliver on a deadline. in a weight loss sense it might be setting a goal of losing 10 kilos in 10 weeks. now if we do not know how to lose 1 kilo it might be overwhelming to come up with a plan on how to lose the 10 kilos in 10 weeks.
In this example the time frame puts pressure on us to perform when in reality What it does is sabotage your self confidence because the goal is too large and too difficult because there is no plan, in place to help execute the results that you want.
Another example might be too much choice.
when we need to make a decision on what to buy to eat for example there are so many options and so much information that if we do not know what is good for us and what is bad for us we might end up reverting back to old behavior is that don’t move us towards our goals.
So you might buy take away instead of shopping for fresh food you might call back into old habits because that’s what we know live with for so long making the feeling of changing overwhelming.
So what can we do about this?
instead of goals start thinking about the end result that you want focus more on the the feeling and how it looks to you. think about the situation you want to move towards.
think of it like a vision of your future self. when you’re clear on that vision when you have to make decisions that reflect your end result you can be more clear with your decision making because you can ask yourself if this action move me closer to my end result or does it move me further away.
if you use this process as a filter to all the options available to you you will begin to make better choices and reduce the feeling of overwhelm each time.
if you do not know what to do in a given situation. use that as a trigger to identify your passion of overwhelm. Because sometimes when we are overwhelmed it is because we do not know what to do. so we can now invest sometime into learning about that area so next time we can make informed decisions and choices that’s right for you.
it might be helpful to write down all your challenges areas you struggle with. so this might be not knowing what to eat, which exercise is best for me, is a particular food good or bad, are there but repeating patterns behaviour. what triggers you to feel overwhelmed.
what do you have that list you can rank them from most important to least important and apply the 80/20 rule. the 80/20 rule states that 20% of what you do give you 80% of your results. So with this in mind you can look at the list and identify the one or two key things in the areas you feel would have the biggest impact.
you can also look at the Five Ways to lose weight formula that I use that I created and It explains the only ways to lose weight.
Try focus on less things and do those things as well.
so in dealing with overwhelm the best thing you can do is identify the triggers that cause you to feel overwhelmed write them down and come up with 1 2 or 3 things you can do to deal with the feeling. and if you’re not sure what actions to take define the problem you’re having and research that problem increase your knowledge in that area. so when overwhelm Comes Again you are prepared and have tools you can use to work through it.