Hey and welcome back, it’s Chris Bridger here again from TheCleanEatingPlan.com In today’s training, I just want to walk you through an idea that might be familiar to a lot of you listening and it’s about the story of the crabs in the bucket. A story of breaking free.
The story of the crabs in the bucket goes a little something like this.
Once there was a fisherman who was using crabs as bait and somebody walked past him and saw that he had all these crabs in the bucket with no lid. This guy was like, “Well, I wonder how all those crabs can stay in there? Wouldn’t they climb out and be all over the jetty, or the walkway, or wherever they are?” He stops and asks the fisherman.
He says, “Why don’t you have a lid on your bucket to keep the crabs in?” The fisherman turns and says, “If you put one crab in a bucket by itself, it’ll find a way to escape but if you put two crabs in a bucket together, when one tries to escape the other one will pull it back down to its same level and neither of them can escape.”
The moral to the story here is the crabs in the bucket are a metaphor for people in your life, situations, or things that tend to drag you down and not allow you to exercise your full potential. Say for instance if you’re going through a lifestyle change where you’re trying to lose weight and you’re surrounded by friends that perhaps don’t support in that goal, they’re basically the crabs in the bucket pulling you back down to where the subconsciously think they deserve to be. The mentality of, “If I can’t have it, neither can you,” or they don’t want … The people around us that are close to us generally fight hard to see us succeed and be happy for us because they generally can’t get the results themselves.
Now if you’ve ever been in a situation where you’ve had peer pressure or felt a little bit like you had to conform, then this is basically what’s happening. It’s you being pulled back down to the status quo or what is considered to be sort of normal in that space. A story I was once told by a client, which illustrates this point perfectly is they were doing it as a promotion at a fast food restaurant where for one day only they had this particular burger. Now it was a one day only thing and all it was was basically they had two different types of meat on it, so you could get beef and chicken on the same burger.
This particular person, her entire workplace, was absolutely excited about the prospect of getting their hands on this burger for lunch, but her being the odd one out, getting personal training and trying to lose weight and improve herself, and improve her health, she was made to feel like a widow because she was declining getting involved with eating this fast food junk burger.
She told me this story and what I said to her was, “In that environment you’re considered weird because you were once like them,” so you would have been on the bandwagon and be like, “Yep, I’m in. Let’s go and do it. I don’t care about my goals that I’ve set for myself.” You just go along with whatever shows up and you eat whatever shows up, and if there’s a fantastic burger to be eaten for one day only, you’re going to get involved with that.
She stuck to her guns and stayed true to her goals and she declined. We had a chat about it afterwards and I said to her, “If that was the same situation but reversed where there was one person who was going to eat the burger and there no other people that thought that person was weird, you would probably find that that person wouldn’t eat the burger. They’d conform to not having it for their health reasons, et cetera.”
Particularly if you were in a gym situation with a personal trainer and health conscious friends, there’s no way we’re going to sit down and drive through the drive-through and grab a burger like that just for the hell of it. The whole point I want to get across here is are there things in your life that are holding you back? People, situations, and things that keep popping up and keeping you from reaching your full potential. There’s no doubt going to be situations where you come cross that and you need the tools and the strategies to deal with that and move forward while still maintaining a positive outlook and you’re staying on track to your goals. Hope that helps you out.
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